8.21.2010

i have come to realize something about relaxers....

they're just not real!!!! I mean, that's obvious, but it's becoming more apparent to me on this journey as i scope out more natural women. Today, my sister and mom went to the hair salon to get they're hair done. After, about 2 months of stretching her perm, my 12 year old sister went to get a touch up and a cut. FYI: she's been getting perms since she was 7 and when I decided to go natural, she wanted to do it too, but my mother detested it because she hates "nappy hair" and its just "not right", so my sister had to get a touch up.  When she came home, her hair looked nice, but it was obvious to me, that this style was not her. While stretching her relaxer, she wore braids, and braid outs, that fit her just beautifully, making it more apparent to me that pin straight "white girl hair" looked unfitting on her. If this is the case, why do black women continue to get relaxers? Can't they see the truth???

5 comments:

NaturalNubian said...

No, hon. they can't. Black women have made themselves so familiar with the lies and discomfort of chemically abused and heat damaged hair that for most, this is the norm. That's why so many women, like your mother, think that the hair that God gave us "isn't right" and is ugly. I detest relaxers being given to children of any age, but it's even worse if the child doesn't want it. Maybe you should share my "It's NOT Just Hair" post with your mom. She seems to be in desperate need of an eye opener.

beautifulms said...

I agree. Now I've gone natural I realise how much better we look and how better suited our hair natural hair looks on us! But before it did seem "natural" for us to have relaxed hair and hair that doesn't belong to us and because that all I saw that was what I aspired to have. Brainwashed into thinking that straighter hair looks better and is easier, it really hard to see the truth.

shamika said...

@Natural Nubian...believe me when i tell you that unless my mother figures out what the relaxers are doing to her hair for herself, nothing is going to change.

@beautifulms...i know exactly what you mean, it looked nice, but it was too high maintenaince for something that was supposed to make my hair more "manageable". I'm a low maintenance chick lol and i always wondered if there was another way, and i'm so glad that i actually found it. I only hope that other black women see the truth...eventually

NaturalNubian said...

@Shamika: Yes, that's the sad part. A lot of black women know the dangers of relaxers, yet until they suffer the irreparable scalp damage/burns, alopecia, and unstoppable breakage for themselves, they'll never stop relaxing and assume, "That would never happen to me."

shamika said...

@Natural Nubian: that remins me of a post i was going to write...hmmmmm...

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